Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Saddened

I heard about Pastor Steve’s resignation today and it deeply saddens me.

I personally have learned a great deal from his teaching and preaching. Through his missional vision my eyes have been opened to a way of living as a Christian that is much broader than I could have imagined and fills a long felt void even though I am still only just taking some tentative first steps. Further research into this missional approach has unveiled that there is a definite movement afoot, and not just the musings of a single man.

I have never understood the ferocity of ill feelings toward Steve? When these ill feelings (I’m being kind) started, I went to Steve to discuss them. I found a man truly in love with Jesus and passionate for the path he was walking. Yes, I also found a man that is occasionally less than diplomatic and sometimes so focused that some social graces were misplaced. Misgivings we all have. But I saw nothing that deserves the ill will I’ve seen expressed? Steve, I’m sorry you’ve been treated so poorly.

I do not blame Steve for leaving and I wish him and his family well! But his leaving solves none of Faith’s problems and we are still a congregation divided!

Faith has much work to do before we will be able to agree and call on a new minister. As sometimes happens, perhaps Steve’s presence (not Steve himself) has become the ember that keeps a fire burning and his leaving will provide the opportunity for things to cool down and recovery to begin? I have my doubts. Following Faith’s Relational Covenant will be imperative if any real reconciliation is to come about. The covenant is a simple set of rules of conduct. In general, I would say reconciliation is possible but the road is going to be long, hard, and paved with prayer.

My optimism for a good outcome has been severely damaged. As I understand it, a sizeable group of folks have opted to withhold their pledges until Steve leaves. I personally find this misguided and I pray I have misunderstood! This seems to fly in the face of pledging by faith in God and disagreeably uses worldly mammon to force an outcome rather than working through it in a Christian manner? This type of action that risks the existence of Faith church to exact a particular outcome rattles my trust to the very core! Right now I am disappointed and I am having a very hard time seeing a way toward forgiveness, restored trust, and reconciliation! This is not the Faith church that “loved me like the child of God I didn’t know I was.”

I’m sharing these feelings in the spirit of rule seven from the Relational Covenant; “Share our personal experiences about the subject of disagreement so that others may more fully understand our concerns.”. I have not yet figured out what to do with these feelings other than lay them at Jesus' feet. I know God is sovereign and the Spirit has been and will continue at work at Faith. It is going to take a great amount of praying for me to find God’s way through this. I will continue trying to follow the Spirit’s guiding to help Faith find its way and see my 2009 pledge through. But I’m not sure what the outcome will be?

Relying on Him, His will be done,
Dave

These are my personal opinions and are not associated with any particular group or groups.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well said. It will be years before Faith can recover from this usurpation of the role of Head of the Church by some members of the church.

Anonymous said...

Dave,
Thank you for speaking the truth in love-the greatest gift of the Spirit.

Our congregation (and the Session) is like the parent who does nothing while their child misbehaves in line at the store. They may think they are showing love and forgiveness to their misbehaving child, but in fact they are just being lazy and therefore showing contempt to both the child and the other people in line who are being disturbed by the child's behavior. What we need to do is be the parent that loves the child enough to take them outside and give them choices. This takes more effort and risks embarrassment, but saves the child and those around him long term.

I'm afraid we have taken the road more traveled (by the world), only react rather than proact by the Spirit and worship our comfort over the truth in love.

I pray for our congregation and Pastors, and ask for forgiveness for my own shortcomings that have helped lead to this. Peace, David

DSM35803 said...

I must truly have faith because I still feel the potential for hope. It can only be faith because the cloud before me is so dark.

For everything there is a season; Ecclesiastes 3. There is surely a time to mourn but there will also finally be a time that Faith stops its long mourning and moves forward again.

Dave McGhee

Shan Davidson said...

I feel sad and disappointed. Faith Church ia a body of Christ and we need to remember that He has told us to love God with all our heart, mind and soul and to love others as ourselves. He also talks a lot about forgiveness. I think He is crying when He sees our action toward each other.I will miss Steve and all his gifts and talents. I saw a good man and my brother and Feel we have lost much. Shan Davidson